Basic Understanding of 'Alaqah Jinsiyah-Intimate Relationship- Education In Islam: Part 2


[5:5]. Today, all good food is made lawful for you. The food of the people of the scripture is lawful for you. Also, you .may marry the chaste women among the believers, as well as the chaste women among the followers of previous scripture, provided you pay them their due dowries. You shall maintain chastity, not committing adultery, nor .taking secret lovers. Anyone who rejects faith, all his work will be in vain, and in the Hereafter he will be with the losers.

 

Do We Really Understand?

The common discussion that we should or we shouldn’t promote sex education keeps going around these issues:-

 

1) It is A Taboo

Sex education in Islam is not a taboo. But sex education in Malay custom is a taboo. Yet in a real teaching in Islam it was  having an intercourse relationship before marriage is WHAT that actually  a wrongdoing and prohibited. Why? We will come to that later.

 

2) Being Too Judgmental

Being too judgmental without  communication wise and lead to unfair treatment is wrong. But being jugdmental because of valid reasons on aspects that morally wrong and solid principle still can  be consider right based on social interaction. Although we have to agree that there were certain aspect that needed to be improve in our social interaction.

 

3) What Actually Is Sex Education?

Sex education seeks both to reduce the risks of potentially negative outcomes from sexual behavior, like unwanted or unplanned pregnancies and infection with sexually transmitted diseases, and to enhance the quality of relationships. It is also about developing young people’s ability to make decisions over their lifetime. Sex education that works, by which we mean that it is effective, is sex education that contributes to this overall aim.

 

Continue reading “Basic Understanding of 'Alaqah Jinsiyah-Intimate Relationship- Education In Islam: Part 2”

Basic Understanding of ‘Alaqah Jinsiyah-Intimate Relationship- Education In Islam: Part 2


[5:5]. Today, all good food is made lawful for you. The food of the people of the scripture is lawful for you. Also, you .may marry the chaste women among the believers, as well as the chaste women among the followers of previous scripture, provided you pay them their due dowries. You shall maintain chastity, not committing adultery, nor .taking secret lovers. Anyone who rejects faith, all his work will be in vain, and in the Hereafter he will be with the losers.

 

Do We Really Understand?

The common discussion that we should or we shouldn’t promote sex education keeps going around these issues:-

 

1) It is A Taboo

Sex education in Islam is not a taboo. But sex education in Malay custom is a taboo. Yet in a real teaching in Islam it was  having an intercourse relationship before marriage is WHAT that actually  a wrongdoing and prohibited. Why? We will come to that later.

 

2) Being Too Judgmental

Being too judgmental without  communication wise and lead to unfair treatment is wrong. But being jugdmental because of valid reasons on aspects that morally wrong and solid principle still can  be consider right based on social interaction. Although we have to agree that there were certain aspect that needed to be improve in our social interaction.

 

3) What Actually Is Sex Education?

Sex education seeks both to reduce the risks of potentially negative outcomes from sexual behavior, like unwanted or unplanned pregnancies and infection with sexually transmitted diseases, and to enhance the quality of relationships. It is also about developing young people’s ability to make decisions over their lifetime. Sex education that works, by which we mean that it is effective, is sex education that contributes to this overall aim.

 

Continue reading “Basic Understanding of ‘Alaqah Jinsiyah-Intimate Relationship- Education In Islam: Part 2”

Basic Understanding of 'Alaqah Jinsiyah-Intimate Relationship- Education In Islam: Part 1


 

Hello On Two (HOT) is really on hot discussion  

While watching HOT talk show at RTM2 this morning, I felt much uncomfortable not because of the issues itself rather because of how ignorance we are as a Muslim. Tony Eusoff and Raja Yasmin did really reflect what common Muslim nowadays think. Casual sex and sex before marriage is considered personal choices but must be conducted with education and protection.

 

But I have to acknowledge Assoc. Prof  Dr George Lee on his concern and knowledge on the issues. He is wise and right based on what he believe and know.

 

I didn’t blame the non-Muslims if they have certain way of thinking since it considered right on their context way of life. They didn’t have Holy book that guide them on how they should take their religion as their way of life or how to conduct their life based on certain definite principle.

 

They can talk about morality but they can say that morality is judgmental or morality is difference based on human right or morality/certain principle is prejudice since everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Which this way of thinking seems full of humanity but it didn’t reflect comprehensive way of life at all. I will not blame them since they didn’t have a solid guidance except certain logical values of morality which can be change on different level of society, education and times. It’s just not solid enough. Its didnt stand on a complete system which can organzie human life such as Islam does.

 

What if we didn’t have traffic light for example? Then, people’s life will run like crazy, since everyone said they entitle to their own belief and have the very own right to make any desicion. That’s what make we need a system in this life.

 

We on the contrary, have a complete guidance be it on our Holy Quran, Sunnah of the Prophet, Ijma’ and Qiyas. Not to add additional dalil that not been agreed among the scholars to be a definite dalil such as, Masalih Mursalah, Istihsan (juristic preference), Istishab and so on. In addition, in Islam we were asked to fully understand Islamic teaching as the way of life through learning Islamic education from its very own right discipline. If not, people will stumble upon conflict, unwise disagreement and confrantation. If we disagree, we disagree with humanity and accurate method of  Islamic dicipline. Continue reading “Basic Understanding of 'Alaqah Jinsiyah-Intimate Relationship- Education In Islam: Part 1”

Basic Understanding of ‘Alaqah Jinsiyah-Intimate Relationship- Education In Islam: Part 1


 

Hello On Two (HOT) is really on hot discussion  

While watching HOT talk show at RTM2 this morning, I felt much uncomfortable not because of the issues itself rather because of how ignorance we are as a Muslim. Tony Eusoff and Raja Yasmin did really reflect what common Muslim nowadays think. Casual sex and sex before marriage is considered personal choices but must be conducted with education and protection.

 

But I have to acknowledge Assoc. Prof  Dr George Lee on his concern and knowledge on the issues. He is wise and right based on what he believe and know.

 

I didn’t blame the non-Muslims if they have certain way of thinking since it considered right on their context way of life. They didn’t have Holy book that guide them on how they should take their religion as their way of life or how to conduct their life based on certain definite principle.

 

They can talk about morality but they can say that morality is judgmental or morality is difference based on human right or morality/certain principle is prejudice since everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Which this way of thinking seems full of humanity but it didn’t reflect comprehensive way of life at all. I will not blame them since they didn’t have a solid guidance except certain logical values of morality which can be change on different level of society, education and times. It’s just not solid enough. Its didnt stand on a complete system which can organzie human life such as Islam does.

 

What if we didn’t have traffic light for example? Then, people’s life will run like crazy, since everyone said they entitle to their own belief and have the very own right to make any desicion. That’s what make we need a system in this life.

 

We on the contrary, have a complete guidance be it on our Holy Quran, Sunnah of the Prophet, Ijma’ and Qiyas. Not to add additional dalil that not been agreed among the scholars to be a definite dalil such as, Masalih Mursalah, Istihsan (juristic preference), Istishab and so on. In addition, in Islam we were asked to fully understand Islamic teaching as the way of life through learning Islamic education from its very own right discipline. If not, people will stumble upon conflict, unwise disagreement and confrantation. If we disagree, we disagree with humanity and accurate method of  Islamic dicipline. Continue reading “Basic Understanding of ‘Alaqah Jinsiyah-Intimate Relationship- Education In Islam: Part 1”