Basic Understanding of 'Alaqah Jinsiyah-Intimate Relationship- Education In Islam: Part 1


Hello On Two (HOT) is really on hot discussion  

While watching HOT talk show at RTM2 this morning, I felt much uncomfortable not because of the issues itself rather because of how ignorance we are as a Muslim. Tony Eusoff and Raja Yasmin did really reflect what common Muslim nowadays think. Casual sex and sex before marriage is considered personal choices but must be conducted with education and protection.


But I have to acknowledge Assoc. Prof  Dr George Lee on his concern and knowledge on the issues. He is wise and right based on what he believe and know.


I didn’t blame the non-Muslims if they have certain way of thinking since it considered right on their context way of life. They didn’t have Holy book that guide them on how they should take their religion as their way of life or how to conduct their life based on certain definite principle.


They can talk about morality but they can say that morality is judgmental or morality is difference based on human right or morality/certain principle is prejudice since everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Which this way of thinking seems full of humanity but it didn’t reflect comprehensive way of life at all. I will not blame them since they didn’t have a solid guidance except certain logical values of morality which can be change on different level of society, education and times. It’s just not solid enough. Its didnt stand on a complete system which can organzie human life such as Islam does.


What if we didn’t have traffic light for example? Then, people’s life will run like crazy, since everyone said they entitle to their own belief and have the very own right to make any desicion. That’s what make we need a system in this life.


We on the contrary, have a complete guidance be it on our Holy Quran, Sunnah of the Prophet, Ijma’ and Qiyas. Not to add additional dalil that not been agreed among the scholars to be a definite dalil such as, Masalih Mursalah, Istihsan (juristic preference), Istishab and so on. In addition, in Islam we were asked to fully understand Islamic teaching as the way of life through learning Islamic education from its very own right discipline. If not, people will stumble upon conflict, unwise disagreement and confrantation. If we disagree, we disagree with humanity and accurate method of  Islamic dicipline.


Method  Of Learning

For instance in order we want to understand the Holy Quran we have to know the Usul Tafsir. In order we want to know how to handle the contradiction between Ahadatih we should learn Usul Feqh or ‘Taarud Wa Tarjih Bainal Adillah or Ahadith’. To complete the understanding in religion our scholars has underline certain aspect which is our deen build from which is Maqasid Shariah or Objective of Shariah. Apart from that,  we have to refer if we went through certain disagreement or khilaf  on how to conduct the dalil to Qawaeed Feqhiah.


We should say what the basic rule in make an ultimate  result of certain ahkam while consider all the difference in the society, country and madzhab once should return to Holy Quran and Sunnah of course but we should handle all  the Adillah with its right disipline, jurisprudence and method of rulings. 


The Purpose Of Deen/Religion

Based on Dr Jasser Auda who are the director of  al-Maqasid Research Centre in the Philosophy of the Islamic Law (Markaz Derasat Maqasid al-Shariah al-Islamiyyah) in London, Uk on Maqasid Shariah can be seen on several dimension:-




Purposes or Maqasid of the Islamic law themselves are classified in various ways, according to a number of dimensions. The following are some of these dimensions:

1- Levels of necessity, which is the traditional classification.

2- Scope of the rulings aiming to achieve purposes.

3- Scope of people included in purposes.

4- Level of universality of the purposes.

Traditional classifications of Maqasid divide them into three ‘levels of necessity,’ which are necessities (darurat), needs (hajiyat), and luxuries (tahsiniyat ).


Maqasid Shariah has been analyize from the context of Holy Quran and Sunnah. While undergoing the study of the our two basic guidance our jurist scholar such as traditional scholar Al-Ghazali, Al-Amid,  Ibn ‘Ashur and the scholars that comes after them such as Taha Jabir Alwani, Raysunni, has come to conclusion that all Islamic teaching and law is based on maqasid Shariah. The mentioned jurist is among those who has discovered the principle of Maqasid Shariah of  Objective of  Shariah.  


Before I going further of what is actually sex education that Islam promote I would like to highlight what actually is the objective of  Shariah (Islamic Law).


The objective of Islamic Law is simple. . The Shari’ah seeks to protect and promote these values and validates measures for their preservation and advancement.


We have not sent you but a mercy to the world” (21: 107). This can also be seen perhaps in the Qur’an’s characterization of itself in that it is “a healing to the (spiritual) ailment of the hearts, guidance and mercy for the believers” (and mankind) (10: 57). 


1) حفظ الدين      : Protection of Religion

2) حفظ المال     : Protection of  Wealth

3) حفظ النسل     : Protection of  Lineage

4)  حفظ العقل     : Protection of Intellect

5)  حفظ النفس     : Protection  of  Soul


This characterization is what Islam is all and based about. The prohibition, prevention or any other ahkam that been excerpt from the dalil is based on this principle.